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In the next two posts I want to go a little deeper and talk about a few things you can pray for your friend struggling through infertility.
When you pray for your friend, I encourage you to pray scripture for them.
Pray Lamentations 3:19-27 over them and pray that they would feel His mercy and trust in His faithfulness. Pray that God would remember her as he remembered Hannah (1 Sam 1:19). Pray that 1 Peter 4:12-13 would ring true and that your friend can rejoice in her sufferings! Pray Romans 5:3-5 and that she would persevere and endure. Pick almost any Psalm and pray, pray pray that Scripture over your friend. Hold fast to the truth that it contained!
What are some specifics to pray for your friend?
Pray for truth:
In the midst of suffering sometimes our life seems to contradict what we know to be true. Does it feel good when there’s the crushing despair of another failed cycle? No. Is it easy to believe God is in control when our body or hormones seem to have a mind of their own? No. But the bible says that ALL of this is for our good, ALL of this is under God’s sovereign rule. So even though our circumstances seems to contradict the Word, we know that God’s Word is true! So we must realize our emotions and thoughts are the lies.
Even though this is true, it can be so hard to remember or believe. Our suffering seems so real, our emotions so overwhelming that it is difficult to believe the gospel, hard to believe that God loves us and is kind to us. I remember a couple times where I was in such deep despair, feeling like nothing was ever going to work out for us, fearing I could never be joyful again. In those times I knew I needed to preach the gospel to myself but those lies felt so real that I didn’t even know when to start! Thankfully the Lord would often reveal Himself in His word or the Holy Spirit would work through a loving friend reminding me of our loving God.
Pray truth for your friend! Pray that the Holy Spirit will transform her heart and that no matter if things are excellent or miserable, that she can believe that Jesus is merciful, gracious, loving, kind and good. Pray that she can put her hope in HIM, not in getting pregnant or having a family. Pray that God would do HUGE things in her heart, that He would sanctify her and her husband and draw them so much closer to Himself.
Pray for comfort:
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 5 For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too. 6 If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer.7 Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort.
2 Corinthians 1:3-7
Infertility brings sorrow. It brings sadness and loss. Those emotions are real even though there isn’t something that they “physically” lost. Pray that the Holy Spirit will comfort your friend. That even though her tears she can know that God cares. One of my favorite verses I have come back to time and time again is Psalm 56:8.
You have kept count of my tossings;
put my tears in your bottle.
Are they not in your book?
He knows every tear that falls. He intimately knows our sorrows and pain. He cares so deeply for us as we are walking through it. It is the Father’s pruning hand that is bringing us through this, but it is his LOVING hand too. He is the God of all comfort and seeks to give us His eternal comfort in Jesus alone.
A few more ideas of things to pray for in the next post…
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