I am so, so grateful for the guest posts this week. I hope it has been encouraging, challenging and refreshing to hear from friends and a spouse who have DONE IT- who day in and day out love me (and others!) through infertility. I hope that it was beneficial to hear practically what loving your friend through infertility looks like. I am immensely blessed to have a husband who leads me and loves me well and friends who know me to my core and can carry me when I feel I can’t go on. However, I know friends who love this deep can be rare. I hope that this series and the guest posts will allow others to stand in the gap for their friends struggling to get pregnant.
I’m wrapping up my series on Loving Your Friend Through Infertility. It’s been a long road and I hope it’s been informative and has empowered you to deeply love those you know suffering through this journey. Although I’m finishing the series, for me- and many others – infertility is not over. Even getting pregnant doesn’t necessarily end it as my friend Andrea found out the hard way.
Infertility is not an acute event and because of that it can be easy to forget your friend’s long-term suffering. I beg you – don’t forget. Be quick to ask her how she’s really doing. Don’t be surprised when she weeps over a new pregnancy announcement even if it’s the 200th one she’s cried over. Walk with her as she navigates through the seemingly never ending questions, even if you’ve helped her answer them all before.
This road is ever changing, but in a way it’s always the same. Your friend’s heart hurts. She is struggling to trust in the God who graciously and abundantly gives life and is withholding it from her. Weep with her. Preach the gospel to her. Remind her that God really is good and does good (Psalm 119:68). He really does love her, even when she feels the opposite. Remind her that He showed his love for us by sending His Son Jesus to die on the cross (Romans 5:8). Jesus’ death paid the penalty for our sin and paved the way for us to join God’s family as sons and daughters (Ephesians 1:3-6). Our Father knows what it is like to weep over a child. Remind her THAT is the God who deeply loves her, THAT is the God carrying her through.
Clutch your friend’s hand tightly. And let the journey continue…
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