Take the Dang Compliment

This may seem like a silly thing, but one of my biggest pet peeves is when you compliment someone and they downplay it.

“Your house is so beautiful!”

Response – “Oh it’s a complete mess right now. I need to clean it.”

“That was a really nice gift.”

Response – “It’s nothing. I wasn’t even sure you’d like it.”

“This food is delicious.”

Response – “I totally messed it up when I made it, but thanks.”

You know what runs through my mind in those incidents?

Take the dang compliment.

As women, we seem to constantly excuse our behavior and brush off compliments. How often do we apologize for the state of our house when someone comes over? Someone points out something positive about us and all we can focus on is what is lacking.

Perfection is not the goal.

  • Even if you had to throw away the first batch of cookies because they were burned, the second batch is still good!
  • Your home decorating can still be beautiful, even if your floors are filthy!
  • Your clothes can be cute, even if you pulled them out of the dirty hamper!

As women, we put these impossible expectations on ourselves. We make this list in our minds of what we should do. We do this with our lives, our relationships, our homes and our hobbies. We are often so insecure that our faults loom so large and often overpower the good things.

But our crave of perfection still exists. But thankfully, that perfection DOES exist! No not in your favorite decorating blogger or the mom in your church who seems to have it all. Where we fail, Jesus was perfect. He lived a perfect life and died a perfect death in our place, so we could stop pursuing perfection. We can find it in Him!

Women, I encourage you to seek your perfection in Jesus. He was perfect so you don’t have to be! There is freedom in imperfection. There is beauty and peace. When you’re not trying to be perfect, you can be gracious. You can kindly accept compliments and forward the glory on the God!


About jackielopina

Follower of Jesus, Pastor's Wife, Cookie Baker.
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2 Responses to Take the Dang Compliment

  1. Kate Titus says:

    Haha, thanks. I do this a lot. I feel like I’m getting better though. Starting to feel less and less like I have to look/host perfectly and realizing that no one else is perfect either, even if I was irrationally worried at first that they were. :)

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