I don’t know where you live but here in the Midwest we’ve had an absolutely brutal winter so far. (And actually I know it’s been a cold and snowy weather everywhere– the other week I read there was snow in 49 states! I’m guessing Hawaii was the lonely lucky duckling because that’s just the best location ever.) Anyways, we’ve had so much constant snow and deep biting cold — the kind where you lose your breath when you walk outside. It’s made you want to stay inside every chance you get. And for me, a stay at home mom with a baby who gets sick easily? We’ve stayed in a lot. I have homebody tendencies but even I have driven myself crazy being cooped up the last couple weeks.
But this week? We had our first break. A day of 50 degrees then a day that actually, really hit 60! Yes it was soggy and windy and caused a thunderstorm… But oh! What a reminder that winter will actually end! It sounds silly but sometimes when it’s THAT cold it seems like it will always stay that way.
Is it ever the same in your life? I remember one of the hardest things about suffering was that I felt it would always be like this. I would always be this sad, the pain would always feel this close, this acute. And that was devastating. That type of suffering feels cold, frigid, and doing the simplest activity made you lose your breath. It’s hard. Anyone who tells you it’s not that hard hasn’t been through something like that.
But oh! Your winter will not last forever.
The bible often speaks of the phrase “a little while” when it speaks of suffering. Now I know when you’re in the midst of it, that phrase almost seems condescending. Honestly, when I was going through infertility I didn’t even like the term “season” (even though I think it’s a good and appropriate term.) But I would always say, “a season lasts for 3 months! We’re here at 3 years and still going strong!” But the key to hold onto is this is a chapter in your life. Yes this may be a defining chapter. It may be something that changes the rest of your story. But the intense pain you feel every day will eventually dull. It may not completely fade. Although there is hope that it will. I thought it would take me years and years to feel light happiness again, pure joy over friends’ pregnancies and not pain over what I missed out on. By God’s grace I was wrong. It took about 3 minutes of knowing our son. There is hope that it may be much quicker and more painless than you think.
Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world. And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.To him be the dominion forever and ever. Amen.
1 Peter 5:6-11
In suffering, in healing, the glory all goes to Him. Whether you are getting ready to enter a period of suffering, are smack dab in the midst of it or are almost out of it, let the upcoming spring be a reminder to your heart that the pain you feel now will not last forever.